Celebrating a Marriage

Today is my 16th wedding anniversary. It kind of boggles our minds that we have been together for 18 years. It honestly doesn't feel like it has been that long and yet it seems like we have been together for a very long time. We came together with such an intensity and fierceness that fateful weekend in Vancouver. It was somewhat frightening when we figured out that there was no way to turn the clock back. And fortunately neither one of us even thought twice about it. It hasn't been necessarily an easy time. D endured the chaos and destruction of marrying into a family with teenagers, particularly a very ugly destructive teenage girl. He was at my side for multiple surgeries as I was averaging about a surgery per year, coming in after work to take care of me. And most of all, D has allowed me to sort out and figure out who the hell I am exactly. Not always an easy task.

We have endured and yet it never felt like it was such a monumental hurdle that we couldn't do it. We have sometimes stumbled in our communication (wading thru depression can do that to you) but yet we have never fought about anything. I think the fact that neither one of us are prone to angry outbursts - we are quite alike in temperament. Ultimately our love and respect for each other never faltered. We have always figured out a way to work past.

We are best friends, lovers, and I look forward to spending the rest of our time...together.